“Not Tonight, Honey”
Handling Your Wife’s Sexual Rejection
How do you respond when you hear from your wife, “Not tonight, honey”? Your response may range from confusion and hurt to impatience and anger. Whether you’re hearing the words for the first time or are beginning to think you’ll never hear any others, you struggle with how to respond. You want to be a good husband, but you also want her to be a good wife! Rob Green walks through the various ways men respond to their wives’ sexual rejection and calls husbands back to Christ’s foundational call to love their wives as Christ loves the church. By reminding men that sexual intimacy is an expression of love that finds its context in a marriage built on safely and security, he offers helpful instruction on how to love well and continue to build relationship.
About the Author
Author Rob Green, M.Div., is the pastor of Counseling and Seminary Ministries at Faith Church (Lafayette, Indiana). He is also a member of the council board of the Biblical Counseling Coalition as well as instructor and counselor at Faith Biblical Counseling.
Rob Green’s influences as a gospel-centered author are varied. He explains, “I have been greatly influenced by the man who encouraged me to stay in youth group when I was sixteen years old, by the discipleship of my pastor during my college years, and by the rank and file of heavenly citizens who have pursued Jesus despite trial, tribulation, suffering, persecution, or even success.”
Green wasn’t always a pastor and author; he has a B.S. in engineering physics from Ohio State University and after college wrote computer programs to process credit cards. After feeling a call to the ministry he entered seminary, eventually earning a M.Div. and a Ph.D. from Baptist Bible Seminary.
Writing, an extension of Rob Green’s biblical counseling and discipleship ministry, provides him a chance to “bring glory to God and to positively impact and encourage people to love Jesus and follow him all the days of their life.”
Rob Green and his wife Stephanie have three children. They enjoy hiking in the mountains out West, shooting guns, going on intense, activity-filled vacations, and serving in their local church together.
Other Booklets in the Series
-Can We Talk? The Art of Relationship Building by Rob Green
-Dealing with Rejection by Jack Miller
-Family Feuds: How to Respond by Timothy S. Lane
-Help for Stepfamilies: Avoiding the Pitfalls and Learning to Love by Winston T. Smith
-Restoring Your Broken Marriage: Healing after Adultery by Robert D. Jones
-Sex Before Marriage: How Far is Too Far? by Timothy S. Lane
-Sexual Assault: Healing Steps for Victims by David Powlison
-Should We Get Married?: How to Evaluate Your Relationship by William P. Smith
-Single and Lonely: Finding the Intimacy You Desire by Jayne V. Clark
-Single Parents: Daily Grace for the Hardest Job by Robert D. Jones
-When Bad Things Happen: Thoughtful Answers to Hard Questions by William P. Smith
-When the Money Runs Out: Hope and Help for the Financially Stressed by James C. Petty
-When Your Kid’s in Trouble: How to Intervene Constructively by William P. Smith
-Who Does the Dishes?: Decision Making in Marriage by Winston T. Smith