How to Love Those who are Hurting
Everyone has friends or family who suffer from sickness, disability, depression, or the death of a loved one. Being There is more of a vital healing influence than we often think.
Oftentimes, the people who love the hurting also struggle in their own unique ways. They tend to suffer in silence and without much support from others. Writing from the unique perspective of one who needs extra help on a daily basis, Dave Furman offers insight into the support, encouragement, and wisdom that people need when helping others.
Furman draws on his own life experiences, examples from the Bible, and wisdom from Christians throughout history to address the heart and ministry of those who are called to serve others. Deeply personal and powerfully pastoral, this book points readers to the strength that only God can provide as they love those who are hurting. Afterword written by Gloria Furman, the author’s wife.
- Grieving Your Loss in Another’s Pain
- Walking with God
- Faithful Friendship
- Be a Hope Dealer
- Serve Like Jesus
- The Power of God in Prayer
- Hope for the Hard Conversations
- Whatever You Do, Don’t Do These Things
- The Church’s Gracious Pursuit of the Hurting
- Afterword: A Letter from My Wife (Gloria Furman)
- Recommended Resources
About the Author
Dave Furman is senior pastor of Redeemer Church of Dubai in the United Arab Emirates, planted in 2010. Dave and his wife, Gloria, have four children. Gloria is also author of several books including Glimpses of Grace and Missional Motherhood.
“When Jesus said that he came to serve and not be served, he must’ve had in mind the many people who help Dave Furman. This remarkable story provides soul-strengthening encouragement to those who daily bear the burdens of people like me and Dave, people who just need a helping hand, day after day. I intend to give Being There to the many people who are daily there for me, a quadriplegic—it’s a must read for any believer who desires to follow Jesus in a life of service to others.”
— Joni Eareckson Tada, founder and CEO, Joni and Friends International Disability Center; author, A Spectacle of Glory and Beside Bethesda
“As a long-term chronic pain sufferer, a pastor to suffering people, and a friend of Dave’s, I highly recommend this book. It is deeply personal, painful, and, above all, hopeful, and I am so glad he has taken the time to share his experiences. This book will point professionals, husbands, wives, and the friends of those who suffer from long-term chronic pain to the glorious truths found in the gospel of Jesus. This is not a book that offers easy solutions, but instead brings Bible-centered counsel to bear on the dark moments of life.”
— Mez McConnell, Senior Pastor, Niddrie Community Church, Edinburgh, Scotland; Director, 20schemes; author, Church in Hard Places
“As I think about the people in my world with chronic pain and ongoing difficulties, and about my awkwardness in knowing how best to walk with them, I can’t imagine a better guide than Dave Furman. Being There is filled with insight that only someone who has walked this road can provide.”
— Nancy Guthrie, Bible teacher; author, Hearing Jesus Speak into Your Sorrow